Is there Someone for Everyone

My home church is doing a series called, "Got ?'s" where the congregation can ask any questions they have and then answers are given in one of three ways. Modeled after Life church in Oklahoma, The Bible is our standard of truth, When the Bible doesn't speak clearly they will add biblical principles, or the pastors opinion (you can give or take his answer)

So one of the questions asked was "Is there really someone for everybody?" When I first heard this my answer is yes, of course there is. How many times have I had that discussion with friends about there being someone out there to make us happy and fulfill our needs of life. Well Keith blew my mind with his answer. So is there somebody for everyone? He says, "Yes, and His name is Jesus." Hearing that answer I sat up in bed and paused the video of him talking. I thought about what was just said, Jesus. Why had I never thought of that before was one of my first thoughts and then I realized because I am so focused on the wants and needs for a physical human being rather the Almighty God. Finally I unpaused the video sermon and listened to the rest of what Keith had to say.

"I keep trying to find that special person... In the Bible it does not seem that God says everyone is going to be married..."

"You need to find your identity in Jesus and not in the relationship with someone else. You need to find your identity in Jesus and not in the lonely you are feeling, find it in Jesus. It is okay to have the want of finding somebody and wanting to be married but once that focus becomes your main goal things have been thrown out of wack. You're the one who has disrupted the flow you're supposed to be in and you have to turn your boat around and get back to the identity with Jesus." He then read Philippines 4:6-7. He proceeded to say, "The fact that Christ is within you help you guard your heart and mind. Having Christ as your identity will protect your heart and mind. Stop looking for the right person but be the right person. Stop looking for Mr and Mrs right instead be Mr/Mrs right. Trust in God. Stop looking for the right person and don't settle. If you're going to find your identity in jesus then the person you're in a relationship with needs to have found their identity in Jesus. If we want to find someone then Jesus has to be the core thought."

What he says almost seems like it should have been right in front of my face. The answer to the question is so simple that maybe it is so simple that I didn't see. And that part of his sermon was exactly what I needed to hear. I realized that I have been looking and searching for the perfect person and trying to make someone into the perfect person but that shouldn't be my job. I just need to make Jesus my focus and my identity and with that everything will come into focus. My goal now is to make jesus my identity and to become the perfect Mrs. and that will all fall into place when Jesus is my core.